0 How to Keep Your Relationship Alive

By Kang Tembem | At 07.06 | Label : love , relasionship | 0 Comments

How to Keep Your Relationship Alive - If you have been married for a while, it’s easy to get lost in your engaged ways of life.
occasionally you just need to halt and stink the roses. holding you connection alive, takes a lot of work, you have to have to be spontaneous and keep things intriguing and adventurous.

When you first get wed, love in the air, you can’t get enough of each other, but after a couple of years, things slow down, and one time even comes to a halt.

Some simple ways to hold your connection living, will be taking afternoon walks simultaneously and reconnecting with each other, upon wakening-up everyday, state certain thing pleasant to each other before beginning your day, surprised each other with morning meal in bed, a back rub to your spouse after a stress day, complimenting each other every day, and pacing out of your solace zone and doing things a little distinct occasionally.

All these ideas will convey back the spar that was one time there.

Over the years you might put-on a twosome pounds that might not be attractive to your friend. Keeping yourself sexy and fit will decisively make your spouse happy. Exercising at lease three times a week will advance your flexibility and overall endurance.

Taking a vacation simultaneously will convey back the love that was once there. Most twosomes get simultaneously because they love each other interest, and other ones for convenience. If your connection is founded on convenience, love actually doesn’t stand a change to make a arrive back.

When you find that exceptional somebody, it’s like finding a million dollars, You want to do all you can for your love, and holding the relationship alive, after a twosome of years past, is very significant.

Never give up on love, because there is somebody out there for every person. finally, make the time to get your love back into tip-top form, or it will fall away from you.

0 When Your Jealousy Can Killing Us

By Kang Tembem | At 17.57 | Label : relasionship | 0 Comments

When Your Jealousy Can Killing Us - So far I have enlightened the world with my thoughts on jealousy and self-esteem. I want to clear up any misunderstandings that may have some male people thinking that I am targeting only women here. Jealousy and self-esteem issues also can imprison  men as well as women. No one is excused from real human emotions. Emotions know no face, color, size or gender. There are two victims here, not just one.

 I also feel that I have neglected to reveal how the other party involved in a relationship that suffers from jealousy or self-esteem issues also suffers.
A relationship is a partnership. It is a commitment made between two people, in that we will stand by each other through thick and thin. Unfortunately, when it is a jealousy issue, both parties are effected. We tend to focus on the person that is trapped in the prison of worry, more than the other person that is caught in the line of fire, partly because we need to free that side first, then we can help heal the other.

Well I am now going to share that persons prison of hell as well.

 To be accused and mistrusted by the one you love is a hardship and a definite pain that one cannot bear for a long time. They eventually either walk away or take a stand and call out to you, (the attacker) to please stop; to please listen to what you are saying and accusing them of.

Time after time they try so hard to reassure you that they do love you and that they are not interested nor lusting for anyone else. When they try to tell you that it is all in your mind, they risk getting attacked more for defense. It is no doubt a vicious circle. They become paranoid that no matter where they are, you are already convinced that they have betrayed you in some way. They wait for the shoe to drop. Some times it takes a few days, some times it drops immediately. Never the less they have to sit by and worry about when it will drop. They fear that this time they will not be able to say the right thing. They fear we will get even more depressed and irrational with what they say to us. They begin to feel, "damned if they do, and damned if they don`t". I personally hate that feeling. To think that I myself would put someone in that position makes me want to run away faster than Forrest Gump.

 The neglect you put on that person through your jealous insecurities is as real to them as your feelings of being trapped in your prison of doubt. There are many scenarios as to why jealousy rises up inside people, but for the innocent ones that really do not ever do anything  to trigger that fear inside you, they are the innocent victims. People that have come to the point of identifying their issues and have began to deal with them, please remember the other person that is there with you. They too need special attention, because they have shared your fears and your pain. In a much different way, never the less, they still ache. Jealousy can destroy so many good things in ones lives. It can destroy our mate, through you, it kills the one thing that you love deeply. The worst part about it is, that you allow it. You must stop. Would you take a gun and shoot your mate? NOT!! So then why are you allowing this emotion to torture what is so dear to you? I repeat, as long as your mate is not responsible for your fears or if they have made amends and are trying to make things better, then please understand their pain of being mistrusted. When they see you in pain and they are being told it is because of them, they crumble. Your mate loves you as much as you love them, and to feel they are responsible for your trapped feelings eats them up inside. To see you smile and feel totally loved makes them feel good about themselves in that they are responsible for that smile. That is a good feeling all the way around.

 Also be careful not to fall into that habit of being unhappy through jealous feelings. Understand where they are coming from. Are you using them as a reason to get attention? Again, a wrong kind of attention. If you cannot get the right attention you feel you are lacking, then talk to your partner. Do not let jealous emotions take over and confuse what you really are trying to say.  Any weakness in your mind is a direct route for negative feelings to travel through. Once they get there, they work very quickly at bringing you down. So be aware of what exactly you are feeling.

 I hope that I have at least opened up some thoughts in your minds as to what else is going on in a relationship that is plagued by jealousy. Both sides are equally being torchered and killed. We need to LIVE, LOVE & LAUGH more often with each other. Oh and lets not forget my favorite thing to do...HUGGGGGG!!!!
One thought from my heart to yours:

Say this outloud:   

"I am always ready to risk.
I am always ready to learn.
I am always ready to test my strength, and so I put my worries aside and just live!  ;)

0 Growing Online Dating Relationships 2013

By Kang Tembem | At 01.00 | Label : love , online , relasionship | 0 Comments

Growing Online Dating Relationships 2013 - Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.

1.    Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2.    Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3.    Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence. 

4.    Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.